Will Smith and Jennie Armato share The Pursuit of Happyness Secrets
HAPPY YOU DAY !
(Whereever in the World YOU Are)
July 10 is International Happiness Day – A day to remember to celebrate your state of happiness as often and as fullsomely as possible.
No one wakes up thinking …
“May I suffer the whole day”
What is happiness, and how can we all get some? Buddhist monk, photographer and author Matthieu Ricard has devoted his life to these questions, and his answer is influenced by his faith as well as by his scientific turn of mind: We can train our minds in habits of happiness. Interwoven with his talk are stunning photographs of the Himalayas and of his spiritual community.
Here’s a short story I prepared on this blog post to celebrate Father’s Day – a symbolic celebration of being someone’s dad. Fathers Day is celebrated at different times in different parts of the world. BUT this is not just or only about Fathers, what I’m about to share with you is about experiences of children (and that’s all of us) – we are all children of our biological and/or adopted parents. This is one common thread we all share along with the lasting affects of these relationships.
Our experiences in childhood really do seem to impact our thoughts, feelings and behaviors in our adulthood and depending on your own personal ability to process, embrace and erase those elements that have the greatest impact will directly affect our beliefs and decisions as adults. It’s a complicated topic and one that can bring up warm, loving and dark, hurtful memories and that’s something for the Pros to talk about really, not me.
What I want to share with you here is the greater awareness of our words – written and spoken and the impact they can and do have on others, especially children. It’s very easy to forget this and say things in a defensive state or perhaps as a deliberate attack on someone. Especially as parents, it’s incredibly easy to snap or go off at a kid going on and on – I remember my own parents – they had immense patience with me and my brothers but occasionally my mum would snap and we’d run for the hills! Understandable and forgiveable but it doesnt hurt for all of us to take a moment and reflect on the wonderful opportunities and experiences we are given and learn to control our words, live for the enjoyment of the present – it really IS a gift … and enjoy children, especially when they are exploring their pleasures and feeling fulfillment in their lives.
Have you seen the movie ”The Pursuit of Happyness“? (Yes spelt with a ‘y’). It stars Will Smith and his real-life son who play a father and son in the movie. Here’s a scene from the movie where the father forgets momentarily, the power of his words and the impact they can have on others – and maybe even ’steal their dream’ (it’s very touching so be ready) …
“Dont ever let somebody tell you you cant do something, not even me
….. You got a dream, you got to protect it!”
Maybe someone close to you - your parent/s, a sibiling, relative of influence or maybe a teacher once told you that you will never be good at ‘it’ … maybe you’re hearing that now as you pursue your ultimate lifestyle by building a profitable and sustainable web business portfolio. Maybe you’re being affected by it so strongly that YOU have started to believe it too!
A few terse words from someone that matters to you can impact your life for a long time and if you dont have dreams bigger than the ’drama’, you will probably give up … what else have you got? It seems the EASIEST thing you’ll ever do is believe someone else’s negative perception of you and give up!
As I’m writing this, I am personally experiencing a very difficult time from some people in business that is hurtful, absolutely un-necessary and is designed to affect me negatively. It’s not easy to let that kind of deliberate anger and fear on their part blow past you, but I know I have to BE bigger than the drama and not let someone else steal my dreams.
(Sharing that with you has made me quite emotional and I feel like a goof sitting here at my computer with the tears in my eyes blurring the words on the screen as I type but I want you know, EVERYONE has someone that can steal your dreams – IF YOU LET THEM!)
Every one of us was given a gift at birth … Napoleon Hill describes it as an envelope marked with the words “RICHES” on it, and inside that envelope are dreams lived, happiness and a fulfilled life.
NO MATTER WHAT, it IS your birthright to complete your human journey to fulfillment and happiness, no matter what anyone around you says – we can choose to concede, we can stand and ’try’ to resist or we can connect with our inner truth and move forward … no matter what … and do it with the belief and bewilderment of a child. The Pursuit of Happyness, no matter how it’s spelt is a journey you should never want to stop being on.
Maybe you are like me, not perfect, maybe you make mistakes, maybe you say things that (even if you didnt know it) rob others of their Pursuit of Happyness … the journey of discovery and fulfillment is always about being the “BEST YOU … YOU CAN BE” … that’s all anyone can ask of you and me.
Here’s a great song from Coldplay, it’s a 3 minute meditation FOR YOU, FROM YOU. I have just played it to myself and it’s a wonderful way to reconnect with yourself and understand you really can Do it, you really can Have it, you really can Be it!
The song is set to highlights of the movie and I’ve included the words below so you can follow them, sing them, print them, share them, enjoy them!
“Fix You” by ColdPlay
When you try your best, but you don’t succeed
When you get what you want, but not what you need
When you feel so tired, but you can’t sleep
Stuck in reverse
And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can’t replace
When you love someone, but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you
And high up above or down below
When you’re too in love to let it go
But if you never try you’ll never know
Just what you’re worth
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you
Tears stream down your face
When you lose something you cannot replace
Tears stream down your face
And I…
Tears stream down on your face
I promise you I will learn from my mistakes
Tears stream down your face
And I…
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you
Sometimes when things dont go quite to plan for me, I have actually stood in front of the mirror and talked to myself and said things like “You CAN Do This Jennie”. Of course we cannot fix others, it’s their journey and their pursuit that will help them grow. Enjoy YOUR journey – Your Pursuit of Happyness (You can Fix You as you Grow).
Oh, Happy Fathers Day to all the dads out there and Happy YOU Day too!
Please leave your comments and feedback below.
I want to know you were here and if this helped you grow.
With love, Jen xo
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Hello Jennie,
I loved that movie and thanks for sharing it.
The best part is that I (and I’m absolutely sure that’s it’s a “we” from everyone else out there in this big World Wide Web of human consciousness) know exactly how you feel sitting alone at your computer (quote “feeling like a goof”) with tears streaming down your face because I’ve been there too. I can FEEL that connection ‘out there’ with you and so many other Like Minded AND Like Hearted people.
Don’t we know it….. we all have these dream stealers. What I love about you Jennie is that you practice what you preach….you will never quit and you will never give up and you will keep being bigger than the drama because of your beautiful dreams and that is inspiration for me and so many others!
Big hug
Glenys
xxx
Hey Glenys, thank you so much for sharing that with me (and the rest of the World Wide Web human consciousness).
I really appreciate it and I appreciate you!
Jen xo
always uplifted and encouraged by what you share with us Jen
cheers
Thank you Nina for stopping by to share with me.
It’s a real pleasure.
Jen xo
I,ve heard this in the past quite a lot of times that I can’t do something.
And I kept working at it to get it done and now I say to my kids: if you want somthing done keep trying to get it done. We are not going to tell you you can’t do ti.
Thanks for the share
Mike
Love that spirit and example for your kids Mike.
Awesome and thank you for sharing that. Comments like really can impact greatly on others (including me).
Thanks, Jen
You’re not a ‘goof’ Jen, You’re brave, courageous and inspiring.
There will always be mean-minded people who try to squash others’ dreams.
Thankfully, there will always be the little voice inside that squeaks: “I can do it” and gets louder every day telling you the real truth of what’s going on.
Thanks so much for sharing your warmth and your passion.
Warm wishes
Stephanie
I’ve read this 3 times now and every time I get something new from it,
Thank you so much and have a great day!
Well, you brought tears to my eyes, because we’v all experienced it.
What really fills me with despair are the times is when I see an unthinking parent publicly humiliating a child while telling them how dumb, stupid or how bad they are.
If just one generation could lift themselves above their upbringing and treat their children in a positive manner we could fix most of the problems of the world.
Thank-you for a very open and inspiring share Jen!!
I have had a few “sitting at the computer all teary eyed and feeling like a goof” moments and having one now. Can you remember though… before social media, how those moments felt so isolating and magnified the negative. How beautiful to know that we can share those moments now and feel better or at least comforted.
Stick to your dreams Jen, coz they gently wash over all who follow you.
Hey Kaz, thank you for that wonderful inspiration and support.
I really appreciate your love and friendship.
Jen xo
Jennie,
I’ve been there too and was quite convinced “they” were right. Years of low self esteem and lots of tears of frustration but then I went to a seminar and met a lady called Jenni and because of her and the wonderful opportunity she gave us – I know I can do it.
My dreams will come true because you have taught me NEVER GIVE UP even though I feel like a “goof” when it comes to technology.
Thank you for your inspiration and your smile.
Best wishes,
Christine